Josh&#039;s Story

Mental health struggles are something that affects humankind in a universal way. One of the potentially lifesaving treatments for those dealing with these struggles is counseling. Catholic Charities is proud to offer individual, couples, and family counseling services as a part of our core programs.

One of our counseling services clients who had a transformative experience is Josh Humphrey, husband and father from Wichita, KS. Josh was at space in his life where he was having a difficult time processing and communicating his emotions, which was negatively impacting his relationships. He learned of Catholic Charities Counseling Services through his aunt, Claudette Humphrey, Director of Stabilization Services.

“I was at a place where I was not dealing with some things that had happened in my past,” Josh said. “I was not dealing with my emotions in the correct way. I had a hard time really opening up to anyone about anything that was of importance.” Josh started teletherapy with Megan Pfannenstiel, Social Services Case Manager and Licensed Therapist at Catholic Charities Hays Office. While Josh was understandably nervous beginning the process, he soon saw the benefits he was reaping by talking through his struggles.

“Once I started visiting with Megan, it completely changed my whole entire life,” Josh said. “Before, I would get angry and not want to talk. I would run away from the situation when that was just making it worse. Now, I have learned how to take a step back, breathe and then talk through my problems in a responsible manner.” Learning these vital tools has not only improved Josh's emotional health but his relationship with his loved ones.

“I communicate more with my wife; we talk way more which has improved our relationship 100 percent,” Josh said. “She says I cry too much now, but it is a good thing. I have learned how to open up and deal with my emotions and that it is ok to be emotional and it is ok to talk about how you feel, it is amazing.”
Pfannenstiel, says that while it may be uncomfortable at first, everyone can benefit from counseling services.

“I think everyone needs a person who can listen to them and counseling provides that. A listening, non-judgmental ear that can be the outside voice to a situation,” Pfannenstiel said. “Counseling is helpful when it comes to many different issues, whether that be adjusting to something in life or ongoing mental health concern. Counseling can be difficult and uncomfortable for some people but that isn’t a bad thing and perhaps that means it’s working!”

Josh says that without the tools he received through counseling, his life would look starkly different than it does today. “I think I would still not be open to anyone; I would still hold my anger in,” Josh said. “My wife and I’s relationship would not be as good as it is today that is for sure. I would still have a lot of hatred and hanger inside me.”

For those struggling with their mental health and our apprehensive about seeking help through counseling, Josh expresses that taking that first step to talk to someone can change your life. “I would tell anyone who is considering going to therapy to do it. It will absolutely change your life,” Josh said. “I know it has changed my entire life. Thanks to my aunt and Catholic Charities my life has done a total 180.”

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health; please contact our offices at 785 – 323 – 0644. There is always hope.